Society is funny these days. With the whole #MeToo movement, “the future is female” and just the whole movement towards a more female-empowered world, one would think there would be a flood of women just supporting each other through the thick of it all.
Instead, I find myself scrolling through vicious comments where women would, in fact, tear each other down.
“Real women have curves”
Nothing makes me more upset than seeing a photo of a woman and then seeing the comment, “she’s not a real woman. Real women have curves.” Considering that I’m a fairly skinny person, and have been throughout my life (partly through genetics and partly through going to the gym), I take offense. Am I not a real woman? Do I not have feelings just because of my weight and figure? Is that all we’re basing it on?
SHOP THE STYLE
This is hypocrisy at its best.
There is one fitness instagrammer that I would often see in my feed, who tries to inspire others with a workout routine. She has a toned body – not overly muscular but you can clearly see she works out. Instead of commending her for her hard work, I would read so many countless comments saying excuses like “oh, I don’t have time for a workout. I’m a real woman who has a job”, or “she looks too much like a boy. I want to look like a real woman.”
Why is it so hard for some women to acknowledge that no matter the size, a woman is a woman?
When Meghan Trainor came out with the song “All About that Bass”, I felt it was such an empowering song!… that is, until she starts saying “go ahead and tell them skinny bitches…” and “you know I won’t be no stick figure, silicone Barbie doll.” Hold on there, Meghan. How can she seriously write a song about empowering the female body and then talk shit about a certain type of the female body?!
Why did she have to bring one person down just to lift another person up?
Why can’t we all lift each other up instead?
So, to sum it up, I vehemently hate the words “real women” because as a general statement, it basically makes no sense. If you’re a woman, you’re already technically a “real woman”. That’s just how the plain English language works. Yet, for some reason, some women have taken it upon themselves to create this underlying meaning behind it with this whole “if you’re not with us, you’re against us” mentality.
We have enough problems as women as it is dealing with unfair pay, sexual harassment, and in general, living in a patriarchal world – let’s focus on tackling those problems instead of each other, shall we?
Slightly off-topic, I wore this outfit to Taylor Swift’s “Reputation” tour when she performed at the Rose Bowl in Pasadena. I had such an amazing time with my best friend, belching out the words to every song she sang, especially to throwback ones like “Long Live”, which is one of my favorite songs of her’s ever. I was gutted when I missed out on her “1989” tour and I’m so glad I didn’t miss out on this one, even if it meant flying back to LA for the weekend to do so.
But going back to the topic on hand – what is your definition of a “real woman”? Do you agree or disagree with my take on it?